I was recently at lunch with a friend talking about leadership, pastoring, and the ways the Lord is always challenging us to grow. This is a friend who I know will be honest with me and he is someone I trust. You need both—if you aren’t trusted but you’ll be honest then nobody wants your honesty. During the course of that lunch I asked this question: Ok, so where do you think I might have an issue in how I lead?
I made a joke.
I’m not sure if those exact words were used, but it was close.
I immediately thought of a previous lunch with another friend several months back. “Hans, I’ve been around you long enough know this: you have a tendency to be critical, but you are aware of it.”
Forget it. I’m never having lunch with people again.
The problem? These guys are exactly right.Continue reading “A Shadow Side Addendum: Criticism”